Am i wrong? and i'm not sure if this is the right category but no others answer questions like this one does
OK my boyfriend is 19 n i'm 20 and were having twins and we just broke up, so everytime we argue his like **** u and don't ever call me again and i dont wanna c the kids, then he'll call back and be like i was just mad, and he's always saying i start all the arguments but we both think its the other. First of all this doesnt matter but just for a little history of our lives i am an african american female, he is from somalia/yemen, his mom is somalian, his uncle's wife is white(25yrs). so now that i filled u guys in his mom says that all black girls are ghetto n they either fake being pregnant/ they do it on purpose, so his mom says that i am a faker/ liar about everything i've tried everything to prove myself n they think i got other ppl pic (his mom lives in canada we live in ohio) his uncle met me and doesnt like me for no reason and my b/f goes n tells his uncles wife our business n she said doesnt like black girls am i wrong for not gonna let his family c the babies? they hate me!
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1 :
couples counseling/anger management...a how to communicate,speak effectively/class.
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Dealing with family is can be stressful and you sound like you have your plate full! Let me ask you this - would you want to subject your children to that kind of mentality and ignorance? If not than I think you know your answer.
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Being pregnant is a big enough difficulty without all the other stuff. If they think you're a faker, time will show them wrong -- so you don't need to worry about that. Try to rise above all the drama and quit trying to win them over. They obviously don't care for you (that's their problem!), so you control who sees the children and who doesn't, especially since your boyfriend is no longer in the picture. Because you're pregnant, your emotions may be more easily upset and sometimes your decision-making may be a little "off". So don't make any firm decisions at this time. Things may resolve themselves after the babies come. So try not to worry about your boyfriend's family. They sound a little nutso.
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If they hate black people, then I don't think they are going to like half black grandchildren. I think you should just send them a picture of the kids every once in a while, and tell them if they really want to see the kids, then they should be nice. Least that's my opinion.
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that sounds like to much negativity to expose the children to. your "boy friend" sounds bi-polar... i'd find out all of the family health info you can and i'd never make the "father" of the children see the children if he doesn't want to! raise them yourself in the most positive way possible: surround them with love!
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